What we think about others shines a light on our subconscious mind – it exposes our unconscious mind. The aspect of us we are not consciously aware of but which is very real and present within us.
What others think of us shines a light on what is unconsciously only in their own mind.
Our behaviour – not thoughts and thus the behaviour of others is our only source of awareness. That is, action determines awareness. Not thoughts.
We must remember our thoughts are mental energy, a means to experience life. Thinking is a sixth sense that informs our life experience – it is not the life experience.