What is right and wrong any way?
Forgiveness is a quality which always succeeds an event of pain, hurt or injury. This quality is there in all of us, but we tend to push it under the carpet. Many a times our ego does not permit us to tend to emotions it pushed under the rug. The ego does this because of it we do not realise that by forgiving someone genuinely we only heal ourselves and lessen our karma baggage. Forgiveness not only takes away the hurt and the pain caused to us by the other, but it extinguishes the past injury. It ceases to obstruct our spiritual growth, and accelerates a new beginning with that person.
Forgiveness washes away the negativity within us which would otherwise eat into our vitals and affect our thinking process. Unwashed negativity builds into anger and by being angry we invite the faults of others upon ourselves. By employing the quality of forgiveness we learn to see others who hurt us with new eyes. We may not attain the ultimate stage of forgiveness but at least it will start the process. But if you’re willing to let go of your baggage keep practising it, as it sets in motion and triggers a change in the brain.
Surprisingly, people who are forgiven may never even realise or recall that they had wronged us. In fact, they do not need to know because every body feels justified in their own actions, regardless of their effect on us. So they may never know we have forgiven them. And they need not even know because it is not for them that you have done it, but it is for your own growth that you need to forgive. Forgiveness is not a favour to others, in fact you are helping yourself.
Hoo pono pono meditation is one of the best techniques used for forgiveness. It just includes four lines as below;
1. I am sorry
2. please forgive me
3. I love you
4. I thank you
We do not have to say this to the person directly. It is like a mantra which could completely change our perception of what has been and hence what will be. By forgiving we are not giving in but letting go of that emotion which is so power packed that it compensates for the powerlessness which we feel when we are hurt.
Without forgiveness, we remain tethered to the person who harmed us. We are bound with chains of bitterness, tied together, trapped. Until we can forgive the person who harmed us, that person will hold the keys to our happiness; that person will be our jailor. When we forgive, we take back control of our own fate and our feelings. We become our own liberators. We don’t forgive to help the other person. We don’t forgive for others. We forgive for ourselves.
Forgiveness is simply an art of accepting and letting go. This art is easily mastered once we learn to genuinely accept and forgive ourselves for whom and what we are. Sure we will encounter many circumstances in our lives where forgiveness of others is required for our own inner peace, but we can only actively and effectively forgive others once we learn to show ourselves the same level of compassion. Without forgiveness life cannot flow and without flow we encounter blocks on all levels of human experience. As modern forgiveness research evolves, the findings clearly show that forgiving transforms us mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically.
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